Clear the path for the people above you and you will eventually create a path for yourself. We are too entitled nowadays and aren’t willing to work under others temporarily. Follow the canvas strategy, which is about helping yourself by helping others. Purpose is function, function, function.ġ1. Its breathlessness and impetuousness and franticness are poor substitutes for discipline, for mastery, for strength and purpose and perseverance.

The art of taking feedback is such a crucial skill in life, particularly harsh and critical feedback.ġ0. Studious self-assessment is the antidote. The pretense of knowledge is our most dangerous vice, because it prevents us from getting any better. Don’t confuse fantasizing and talking yourself up with actual progress. Research shows that while goal visualization is important, after a certain point our mind begins to confuse it with actual progress. Make moves in silence and let your actions and results talk.Ĩ. In actuality, silence is strength-particularly early on in any journey. It’s a temptation that exists for everyone-for talk and hype to replace action. And certainly, ego makes it difficult every step of the way.ħ. The ability to evaluate one’s own ability may be the most important skill of all. Examples: LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook.Ħ.

It’s never been easier to talk, to puff ourselves. Now more than ever, our culture fans the flames of ego. Parents and teachers raised us focusing on building our self-esteem. Our cultural values almost try to make us dependent on validation, entitled, and ruled by our emotions. If your belief in yourself is not dependent on actual achievement, then what is it dependent on? The answer, too often when we are just setting out, is nothing. Or we have failed-recently or continually.Ĥ. At any given time in life, people find themselves at one of three stages: aspiring, success, failure. Ego tells us what we want to hear, when we want to hear it.ģ. Pursuing great work-whether it is in sports or art or business-is often terrifying. Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, your worst enemy already lives inside you: your ego.Ģ.

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